Okay, till yet many of us have heard and read about many mundane reasons for the failure of relationships. If I’m right those mundane reasons are as follows: lack of trust, lack of communication, zero honesty, ego, revenge, no personal space and many more. But, there are still some relationships that fail miserably even scoring 10 on 10. No matter how much honest or noble you are still your relationship could get affected adversely due to some real surprising facts.
Here are some offbeat reasons why relationships fail. Read on..
1. Your happiness is dependent on your spouse.
Many of us often think that if we can change another person’s perception towards us then we will be more happier and fulfilled. In simpler words, we give others the responsibility for the way we feel.
But actually the fact is you are only responsible for you and your happiness. The way to better relationships always starts with you not with others.
2. You don’t accept who you are.
When you’re unhappy with yourself, you look for others to fill in those gaps of your unstable sense of self, instead of figuring out who you really are your preferences, interests and personality etc. You change yourself because you think that your balance for love and acceptance will be great. But to stay in a healthy relationship you need to be powerful and opinionated about your ideas and passions. Learn to be vulnerable with people you trust and express emotions. Forgetting your real identity is the most crucial reason why relationships fail.
3. Too much compatibility.
Let me remind you people that like charges repel each other and unlike charges attract. Compatible couples are good in general. Many people desire for like-minded partner with whom they can get along and spend life easily. The trouble arises when compatibly occurs with the elements of common features based on immaturity. When a two people are quite similar in relationships in a way that are immature, they risk indulging, enabling and perpetuating each other’s unhealthy tendencies. For example, one similar lifestyle might result in the irresponsibility of both partners leading to self-destructive habits.
4. Too much attachment.
Getting too much attached in a relationship for any couple is totally natural. But according to the researchers, an individual with the Anxious-Preoccupied attachment style seeks much time with his or her partner to spend, and feels insecure without partner. He or she often experiences negative emotions in the relationship that needs constant reassurance to feel safe and secure.
5. Good sex becomes boring.
Couples in love indulging in intense love making is expected and acceptable. But at some point that excitement of good and satisfying sex becomes usual and there rises the desire of more sex with new excitement and elements which leads to failure of relationships, yet another reason why relationships fail.
6. Too silent to burst badly.
There are many couples who narrate this exact words, “My partner and I never argue.” Am I right guys? Anyway people who claim that their relationship is based on no arguments are those who compress their anger and frustration inside them to avoid clashes and conflicts. But, that compression when gets too much pressure it bursts very badly ruining relationships and lives.
7. Being too much nice.
When a person being too nice to his/her partner, there is more change of getting less valued. When something is more available in abundance, the less values it has. Similarly, when you are always available for your partner emotionally, physically, psychologically, financially, unfortunately, your value becomes nothing which ruins even beautiful and successful relationships.
8. Self-criticism and sarcasm.
When you are not happy with yourself you tend to be more sarcastic. Sarcasm becomes the most apparent essence of your most conversations. Sarcasm that relates to self-critic that directly or indirectly reaches to your partner hurting their emotions and self-esteem, one of the crucial reason why relationships fail.
